>married anon, what advice would you give to the men and women in this thread to look in for in a partner?
I used to have a big list. But after some thought, it mostly comes down to the ability to delay gratification.
>In this study, a child was offered a choice between one small but immediate reward, or two small rewards if they waited for a period of time. During this time, the researcher left the room for about 15 minutes and then returned. The reward was either a marshmallow or pretzel stick, depending on the child's preference. In follow-up studies, the researchers found that children who were able to wait longer for the preferred rewards tended to have better life outcomes, as measured by SAT scores, educational attainment, body mass index (BMI), and other life measures.
This is what separates us from the niggers. If you didn't have the ability to store food for the winter, you, and your family would die. Niggers don't have much winter, food is always available, so they didn't develop the ability to save anything for later.
If your wife can't help but spend every dollar that comes into the house, if she can't keep herself in decent shape, if she can't do chores, your life with her will definitely suck. If she can't keep of Chad's dick, even though Chad just wants to fuck and chuck her, your life with her will suck.
Signs of this are usually pretty obvious, tats, fat, never has any money, etc.
But to be able to choose, you must have choices.
>But to be able to choose, you must have choices.
<But to be able to choose, you must have choices.
Yep, I wrote that three times, because it's so important. You must also be able to pass the marshmallow test. Do you lift? Do you watch your weight? Can you suffer to gain an education and a decent job? Or are you a nigger stuffing your face with cheetos? Can you suffer in the gym? Can you suffer the sting of rejection, when you get laughed at when you approach women?
People don't realize that to get in a relationship, you have to have something to offer. Are you a half-eaten cheeseburger in the trash can that only a vagrant would eat, or are you a fine steak? Anons often get fatalistic about this. They are ugly, they are spergs, etc. Most things can be fixed or minimized, unless you are seriously deformed on the level of hotwheels. I'm an ugly motherfucker, and was a bean pole. I dressed well, took care of myself and maxed out on charisma, that worked for me pretty good 20 years ago. Now I'm a bit more coarse, I dress like a construction worker, but I have much more muscle on my frame now (not a mass monster, just "fit"). Both ways though, I had something to offer.
I like it better the way I am now, but if I found myself divorced, I'd have to up my charisma once again. A fit frame will get you in the door, but you have to have some charisma to close the deal.
So, what are you offering? You must offer value to get value.