For starters, acting like a raving lunatic wignat that longs for a cringy (and never-coming) race war will not be suffice. Nobody in their right mind would want to join such a thing.
This applies especially to the pathetic worship crowd of Brenton Tarrant, who's actions were of little contribution to any nationalistic ideal and rather cemented any legitimate opposition to jewry as a crowd of lunatics. This also applies to controlled opposition like Richard Spencer, who had a tape released of him saying some cringe angry rant that cemented him as the stereotypical wignat that he is. It's funny to see him be affiliated with the CIA (his connections) along with being connected with Akeksandr Dugin who doesn't like Whites. Spencer also has a Russian wife. It's also cringe to see him LARPing as Hitler who hailed Trump as if he were to save the world or some BS.
>OK so what do you propose?
Cut out all of your wignat BS. I get it - the more radical you appear, the more legitimate you will appear as well, contrast with the cuckservatives who here and there will pretend to support SOME of your views to get a vote. Nobody will want to listen to a person who acts like an ape, let alone a fat one who looks like the untermensch. Being buff or having money or being a "chad" will not be a substitute for what is a person with depth and honourable values, who can be admired even from a non-political standpoint. If you have any of these (or multiple) boxes checked (money and so on) and are not honourable in any other aspect, then you'll not attract anyone, unless they already know you and think of you highly, which makes people more receptive.
If you want to be listened to among normies, you have to be a respectful person in the first place. That is, not a loser. Who is going to gain more legitimacy? The person who is well read, can take care of himself, is kind and polite, well mannered, well meaning, which garners him respect, or the fat neckbeard who will yell like an imbecile or straight up spill the beans on something (eg "Hitler was actually a hero!"). That person will be ignored and laughed at straight up from the spot and never listened to again, no matter how true, rational or factual his claims are, as he is ugly and unadmirable and also because he didn't put forth that which warrants a person to come to this conclusion on their own, or have it made easier (eg it is harder to convince a nationalist about the support of eugenics than a multicultarist). The good outcome could be that it goes viral on the internet and some person seeing it will go down a rabbit hole of sorts, which is rare. If a foundation of ideas that will lead a person to be receptive about another redpill, he will spit it out as it is too high of a dosage, so to speak. You need to understand that ideologies are often asociated with the people who promote it and/or are thought to support it (neckbeards, rednecks...).
Focus on building the pillars and values that naturally lead to another redpill than to try to bombard with the biggest redpills there are. If you fail on the big redpill you will be ignored. If you fail on the small ones, little consequences will ensue. Patience is key.
Negativity is both attractive and repulsive, depending on who you consult. People generally are attracted to what they see will generate a positive, rather than despotic, outcome if put to practice. It is for this reason that if simply values are promoted (eg preserving culture and embracing it, the value of our ancestors and our history) then they might come to some conclusions closer than our own. This tactic varies on the person. If they reject some proposals or values, it is because they see something about it as negative. If a negative-spirited argument is put forward and you respond with a positive counter-argument then you are not only seen in a more humane way (ie not a monster) but rather a person with values who wants to see them put in practice. The reason why we are drawn to redpills is because we want to know the truth and solve the negative aspects in our society and reject what is now considered positive as we view that as a reality that will bring forward more misery in the future.